Queen of everything that is right and good with the world, Oprah Winfrey, is celebrating her 62nd year of gracing us with her ethereal presence today, so it’s only fitting to round up the best pieces of advice Lady O has offered us thus far. Here are some gems that are sure to push you into “A-ha Moment” overload.
1. How to identify a good career opportunity
From listening to her gut as a teen news anchor to move away from hard hitting crime to covering personal interest stories which eventually blossomed into the Oprah Winfrey Show, she knows there’s nothing wrong with capitalizing on what you’re good at.
“The truth is I have from the very beginning listened to my instincts. All of my best decisions in life have come because I was attuned to what really felt like the next right move for me,” she said during a 2014 interview at Stanford University.
She advised the students to take a moment, go to a quiet space and go there with themselves. Ask the hard questions. Would I want to be apart of this if I was on the outside looking in? Do I really want this, or am I doing it for the money or the prestige or because I think I should?
It sounds cliche’ but doing what makes you happy applies to every aspect of life, career is no exception.
2. How to deal with stress
Who knew that Oprah’s body was even biologically susceptible to stress? The way she has seemingly floated through some of her biggest challenges, like her once flailing OWN channel or that random beef lawsuit, you would think she was physically incapable of a meltdown. But, as she politely reminds every once in awhile, she is human. So how does she deal?
“I close the door, wherever I am at my old office in Chicago, I’d literally go in the closet and just sit and breathe,” she said during a Today Show appearance last year.
Sometimes when the world becomes a bit too much, it helps to close yourself off and attempt to rid your mind of all those pesky worries keeping you from achieving superior levels of bad bit—ness.
3. How to end a friendship
Millennials are at that weird stage in life where there’s a friend group for every juncture: childhood friends, college buddies and the inevitable workplace friendships. Managing them, at times can be a bit tough and with the constant changes that being a twenty/early thirty-something brings, friends can get left behind.
Oprah is no stranger to this and has explained that she’s had to cut a few people loose over the years.
“If friends disappoint you over and over, that’s in large part your own fault. Once someone has shown a tendency to be self-centered, you need to recognize that and take care of yourself; people aren’t going to change simply because you want them to.”
I know it’s painful and awkward and you might even double back a few times before it finally sticks, but once the decision to move on has been made, it has to be done.
4. How to develop laser focus
Having insanely ambitious goals are a shared trait among our generation. And due to our social media obsession, so is envy. Oprah says the best way to combat those resentful feelings is to focus on your ‘now.’
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”
Easier said than done, right? One focus technique that you could try is implementing external reminders of gratefulness into your daily routine, for instance, writing a small moment of that day’s happiness on a post-it note and sticking it to your fridge, or anywhere for that matter, a la Mary Jane Paul style.
5. How to make failure work to your advantage
Perhaps one of Oprah’s most popular quotes is:
“Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.”
It makes perfect sense that those words are on millions of Pinterest boards and inspirational IG memes. Everyone fails. This is a universally accepted fact (in my mind.) The way you handle it, however, is entirely up to you:
– Learn from it. If you’ve ever heard of and understood the old adage “failure is the best teacher,” then you’re already half there. For as long as you are here on earth, there will be more opportunities waiting to be seized. Prepare for them by identifying your mistakes from the last time and rectifying them.
– Focus on the process. Try to avoid thinking about the possible outcomes before an attempt is even made because that’s what breeds fear. Concentrate on your abilities, using the best of them and that moment of pride you’ll feel once the process is over.
6. How to make people notice you
“My philosophy is not only that you are responsible for your own life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.”
Do I really need to explain?
Made by Jasmine Browley