Doggie Style Rewards (Get Your Mind Out The Gutter, People)

Ladies, are you looking for the magic potion that will get your man to put down the toilet seat? Put the cap back on the toothpaste? Use the turn signal when switching lanes? Mow the lawn before the neighbors start to complain? Do anything you want him to? Try compensating him for all the things he does well, and flat out ignore the things that he doesn’t do well. Kind of like a reward system. Okay, okay, EXACTLY like a reward system. But it works.

Here’s why: Our brains have a special circuit whose only job is to detect and control how we respond to pleasing stimuli. It basically ensures that we’ll repeat any behavior that resulted in a really great experience. So if your husband encounters mind-blowingly positive feedback or a reward as a result of putting down the toilet seat, replacing the cap on the toothpaste, and mowing the lawn early, his brain (subconsciously) is going to seek out ways to repeat that behavior to keep earning those rewards. Make sense? All you have to do is activate the circuit.

Remember Pavlov’s dog theory? He would ring a bell (the stimulus). On its own, the ringing bell had zero power to produce a response or reaction from a dog. But when combined with food, which does have the power to produce a response from the dog, the ringing bell became associated with the food. The dog would start salivating as soon as he heard the bell because he knew it was only a matter of minutes before he was going to be rewarded with the food. You can get your man to do what you need him to do using this same technique.

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Cheryl Grace is the sassy aunt, best friend, and mentor you’ve always needed in your life. The successful jet-setting, global corporate executive founded the aspirational lifestyle brand Powerful Penny LLC. Her products, workshops and speeches probe, inspire and empower to ensure those who really want to can get to their next level of best. Her blogs on careers, prosperity, relationships, family, looking and living fabulously, and living a five-star life can be found at www.powerfulpenny.com.