I was with two girlfriends this weekend. One is a single mom, and she’s trying to get herself back into the dating game. She’s doing a great job. She’s working on a new look with her hair (like “finding time to wash it,” she says), and after fun nudging, we got her to shed her mom-sweater and go for something a little more form fitting, revealing the fab figure she has. This stuff, this external stuff was easy for her to change. After a few Bellini’s, we discovered that she’d lost her confidence in herself, and as a result, it was screwing with how she trusted herself. in her dating life. Let me explain.
I’ve seen the dating sites. Those things are no joke. BUT, in order for them to work in even the most basic of basic ways, you’ve gotta trust that 1) you’re going to do your best to pick someone who is remotely interesting, and 2) who you show up with, i.e., YOU, is your best self at that time!
Let me break it down even further, ya’ll. Doing online dating, or any dating for that matter, requires a bit of vulnerability. Vulnerability is that cute overcoat you’ve been wearing with the super cinched belt that you don’t want to take off even though the rain is long gone. You feel me? If you’ve put on some weight, or your bank account ain’t what it was, or your job title changed from VP of Development to VP of Unemployment Line (aka Freelancer), or you moved to a new city where you know nary a soul, you must take off that overcoat. You must trust that when you do take it off, all those little things that you’ve been covering up are going to show and they are not going to make you any less of a fabulous woman than you are … right now. Trust.
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Cheryl Grace is the sassy aunt, best friend, and mentor you’ve always needed in your life. The successful jet-setting, global corporate executive founded the aspirational lifestyle brand Powerful Penny LLC. Her products, workshops and speeches probe, inspire and empower to ensure those who really want to can get to their next level of best. Her blogs on careers, prosperity, relationships, family, looking and living fabulously, and living a five-star life can be found at www.powerfulpenny.com.